tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35750443.post5842189639004667428..comments2023-09-02T05:01:04.782-05:00Comments on Fleas Biting: Workshop 1.3, Part I: Ensuring Ethical Relinquishing PracticesDesireehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00379871315468470235noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35750443.post-32576169713971025582007-11-20T10:53:00.000-06:002007-11-20T10:53:00.000-06:00I read your entire post and found myself in a quan...I read your entire post and found myself in a quandry like most of the APs out there. Our son came to us after a 6 week "cooling off" period where he lived with his mother and grandmother but not the rest of his family. He came to us many months old and the result of poor nutrition in the household. In that 6 week period, I don't believe the agency did much if anything to help his mother discover her options regarding improving nutrition in the household. She had 5 children and may or may not have been receiving aid from a variety of resources. We will never know how extensive her network of support was or how much assistance she had been offered by the agency. As an advocate for moms and their children in transitional housing, I feel that I could have put her in contact with more resources had I been the one she asked for assistance rather than the agency. We can tell that her son was well loved and that he suffered no abuse (or neglect other than a lack of sufficient food). It keeps me awake at night wondering if we could have kept this family together by simply directing them to better resources.<BR/><BR/>The other thing which bothers me is that the mother checked the "annual visit" box on her form and when we inquired about scheduling the visit (we are open to and welcome contact), the agency told us that "it wasn't her intention" and that "she checked that box in error". When we asked for confirmation, the agency said they "would ask the next time she called" them. We feel as though we should take her checking this box as a sign that she knew what she was requesting and that the agency should actively contact her to confirm. We are not comfortable with their explanation. However we have no idea how to contact the mother and don't know what we should do to resolve our misgivings. The knowledge of who she is and where she was last living is not with us but with the agency. How can we get this kind of information without tipping our hand regarding what we would like to find out?<BR/><BR/>I don't expect an answer but we are trying to do what is right and don't really know where to go next.Trixiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11941824999630457439noreply@blogger.com